Silver Lining

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Silver Lining:

OK, I know most of us have too many things to do and not enough time to do them all right?? So how can we find the silver lining in this situation? Well, I can tell you the opposite situation is much worse. I once had a job in the Air Force where I had to be out in the missile field for 3 and a half days. I will tell you that I had about a half a days work to complete. I was bored out of my skull. Here's how bored I was. I beat the game Super Mario Brothers.....twice. And I didn't just beat it, I found all 96 levels both times. I also beat Zelda....twice. Man, the feeling I would have when I got home was an empty one. Consider this, remember how you felt the last time you got all your activities done. Now that is a good feeling, a feeling of accomplishment. My advice to you is to get them done one item at a time (be selfish, you first, see the life coach section below). Do the most dreaded item first to get it out of the way. And when you get em all done, celebrate! Go to Dairy Queen, have a glass of wine, do something for you!

It could be worse:

OK, we have to get groceries, help the kid with his school project, do laundry, get ready for work, clean the house, take the dog to the vet, etc. etc. Well, at least when you're thirsty you can just turn on the faucet and get a drink. In many countries getting clean drinkable water is a chore that takes a lot of time. Hey, at least our children have the ability to get an education. We know that there are many countries where education is reserved for the wealthy. Oh, and don't even think about the food situation. We are so lucky to have the variety of foods available to us. Anywho, the next time you feel overwhelmed, consider how fortunate we are!!

Life Coach:

So we are overwhelmed. Yep, it happens. Here's what we need to do, and it's going to sound crazy to some. We need to take care of ourselves......first. Yep, that's what I said. Too often we become martyrs. We have to do this for that person and that for another person. Well, what usually ends up happening is we resent those people or get frustrated when we finally get around to what we need for ourselves. What if you took care of yourself first then helped others? What if you were content before you reached out to help. Maybe we would be better suited to truly give if we felt good ourselves. I know, it's counter-intuitive. We've been raised to give first to others. Well, based on the results, how's that working out for you? Throw out the old antiquated notion that we derive our self-worth from what others think of us based on how much we give. Instead, take care of yourself, then if you want, help others. Trust me, you're mindset will be much improved. To sum it up, love yourself first, then love others.

Homework assignment:
Take care of your needs first, then see how it feels when you help others.